family

Had a family dinner today.. nah.. we had it everyday last time.. as we graduate and leave home to further study, complete family dinner become rare and rare. treasure every moment spentwith family, and this holiday has been revolving around family.
i'm family-son and this makes me prioritiize family than other things. giving up oversea study, not going for vacation, stopping school activities etc.. not saying how good i am or how i sacrifice because i am willing to and i am happy to do that. to foster the relationship among family members is always what i want to do. holding everyone together creates joys and fun, and that's make me happy.
my family is rather special; everyone's is unique. we share, we criticize, we advice, we comment, we discuss, we solve issues together. that's why i don't view friends as important because my family members play the role of friends as well.
but what makes up a family?
a family to me is like and alloy metal, there's synergy effect and there must be. you cannot have every atom of same size and property which result in homogenous metal, one that is weaker than alloy. in alloy, the small particle that fills up the void doesn't mean that it is weaker, in fact it fills the gap to make a denser and stronger metal. the different in electronegativity creates bond between particles which strengthen bond.
same anology goes to family. In a family, we have some one who cares a lot, someone who like to leave home, someone who like to stay, someone who is quiet, someone who is noisy, someone who criticize without thinking, someone who never voice out.
but these are the ones who make a family unique. ideally, if everyone is too quiet, there should be no quarrel at home, but this lead to less understanding; if no one criticize, there's no feedback and no improvement. so, tolerancy is the key element to be embended in each member's heart. we cannot ask one to do what we what, because this lead to his/her unhappiness and distort the nature of oneself.
In a  family, we do not want metal, we want alloy, not only alloy, but a stronger alloy. we should not scold one to change to what we wnat since this will annoy the person, but we ask and discuss to change a bit here and there.a slight change can make improvement.
if you like to leave home most of the time, maybe you should stay for a long period of time to spend more time. family members will be happy.
if you like to criticize, control you tone
if you are too quiet, shout a bit, it creates fun
be more responsible to the family and holding each other together will become your "ultimate task" unconsiously and you will be very willing to do it